Eight years ago today approximately 500 (yeah, for real) of our friends and family gathered at University Place Presbyterian Church to witness Sarah and me get married. It was one of the craziest, happiest, busiest, most overwheleming and awesome days of my life… of course I wasn’t a parent yet.

We’re pretty different in many ways, but I think it may just seem that way because of how well well suited we are for each other. With so much coming so easy, the hard spots seem perhaps bigger. Our relationship defies many of the typical gender roles associated with married couples. Sarah is practical. She’s a solver of problems. She likes to see it all written down, explore all options. I’m emotional, I need to talk thru things (if only for the sake of talking thru them). I make decisions spontaneously. In Meyers-Briggs speak: she’s the ENFJ to my INFP.

After 8 years, I think I’m starting to feel at home with that. Little things that used to cause a bit of friction don’t seem quite so abrasive anymore… and in fact when we find ourselves in the middle of one of those moments there’s a part of me that kind of smiles inside and says, “This is just so… us.”

It’s unique and beautiful and challenging…

…and ours.

Happy Anniversary Love. I’d do it all again in a minute (with only 1 or 2 minor edits).

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